“Grief can be the hardest journey you’ll ever have to take ...
The journey is less difficult when you let others join you along the way.”
The Hospice Circle of Love Bereavement Team is here to help you through your grief. It isn’t our desire to help you ‘get over your grief,’ but to successfully learn to rearrange your life after such an important loss. Our Bereavement services are provided at no cost and are open to all members of the community.
First 4 Tuesdays in February, June and October
5:00pm to 6:00pm
at Hospice Circle of Love (314 S. Third, Enid)
Call Dr. Matt Miles or Rev. Gary Miller at (580) 234-2273 to register.
Please click on the topics below to learn more about the available Bereavement Resources
We offer Grief Support Groups three times a year. These groups are open to anyone experiencing a loss. We seek to provide a safe environment where one’s grief can be expressed, shared and worked through.
"What Happens in Group, Stays in Group."
Sometimes grief is more appropriately addressed on an individual basis. We offer opportunities for grief to be shared in a personal one-on-one setting. Our Bereavement Team has over 50 years experience in helping others deal with loss and grief.
As grief education and resources are made available and are updated, we work to keep the most effective resources available to help members of the community in dealing with loss.
Every holiday season for more than 20 years, Hospice Circle of love has been honored to provide our Tree of Life memorial Service to help friends and family as they honor those that they have lost by placing an ornament on our annual tree.
We continually re-evaluate our Bereavement Services in order to offer as much help as possible. Please check back from time to time for services as they are updated.
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Time alone will help. Time with others whom you trust and who will listen when you need to talk will help. It may take months and years to understand the feelings that go along with loss.
Grief is an exhausting process emotionally. You may need to replenish yourself with extra things. Hot baths, afternoon naps, a trip, a “cause” to work for to help others - any of these may give you a lift. Follow what helps you and what connects you to the people and things you love.
The loss has already brought about enough change. Getting back into a routine helps. Allow yourself to be close to those you trust. Always remember that you need to do things at your own pace.
Try to allow yourself to accept the expressions of caring from others. You may find hope and comfort from those who have experienced a similar loss. Discovering things that helped others and knowing that they have recovered may give you hope that sometime in the future your grief will be less raw and painful.
Don’t get in a hurry-but do keep moving. Grief is now. Discovering life after loss isn’t instant or immediate. Do not underestimate the healing effects of small pleasures when you are ready. Sunsets, a walk in the woods, a hobby, a favorite food - all are small steps towards regaining your pleasure in life itself. At times like these, small goals are helpful. Something to look forward to, like playing tennis with a friend next week, a movie tomorrow night, a trip next month helps you get through the time in the immediate future. Living one day at a time is the rule of thumb. At first, don’t be surprised if your enjoyment of these things is not the same. This is normal.
For a while, it will seem that much of life is without meaning. As time passes you may need to work on some longer range goals to give some direction to your life. A Grief Support Group or grief counseling can help with this.
- Be there. Be available.
- Allow silence. Don’t talk if they don’t want to.
- Listen in a non-judgemental way.
- Be careful what you say. Avoid the use of cliches such as "Think of all the good times", "You can always have another child" and so on.
- Encourage them to talk about the one that has died.
- Be practical in your offer of support with offers like minding children or cooking.
- Talk about the deceased by using their name. Avoiding the subject makes it worse.
- Accept that tears are normal and healthy.
- Be dependable. Don’t give up on them.
- Remember that grief may take many years to work through.
- Acknowledge dates. Remembering birthdays, the day of the death, anniversaries and such will remind them that they are not alone.
- Accept that you cannot change things or even make them feel better, but you can support them.